I know, it sounds silly but it’s true. The title, that is. Do you realize how much we talk to ourselves? When you are not talking to someone else, you are ALWAYS talking to yourself. Think about it. The mind is an everlasting chatter box. It’s filled with chatter! What our mind is filled with solely depends on what we allow it to fill up with. There’s a deep connection with how we feel and what we are thinking. There’s also a deep connection with our mindset being the endgame in how we are talking to ourself. Get it?

Catch yourself. Next time you are in your own thoughts, what are you thinking? Do you look in the mirror and right away put yourself down? Did you talk to your friend yesterday and go on a rampage about how unhappy you are? Did you automatically complain about something If so, change it. Change the way you are thinking and change what comes into your thoughts that are spun directly into words.

I received an email yesterday from one of my kids teachers. I was shocked to say the least. I don’t like to mention any specific names in my blogs, however, I will tell you one thing…this particular son of mine NEVER gets emails sent home. Never, ever! Here’s the thing. This email is concerning. It concerns me because it directly impacts the way he views himself and feels about what he can and cannot do. It was an email from his language teacher. He takes Spanish. He studied hard over the weekend and still refused to do the speaking part of his final. I can tell you first hand, his refusal was not because he just didn’t want to do it. His refusal is coming from a lack of confidence and fear, a negative compilation of all the thoughts that were running through his mind in that moment. I know what was going through his little beautiful mind. “What will they say?” “What if they make fun of me?” “What if I mess up?” “What if I sound funny when I am speaking?” After all of these thoughts, and then some, that I know were racing through his mind he told the teacher; “Just give me a zero.” He would not even try.

From early on in life we are always thinking. Our thoughts are the gateway to our mindset, how we view ourselves and how we view others. It starts with how we speak to ourselves. This is the same child who doesn’t like to engage in competitive team sports. He tries and decides he doesn’t like it. I know as his Momma that is not the reason. It’s his confidence and his fear of not being good enough. He plays all sports for hours on end and I’ve seen him, he enjoys them when he is with a group of friends just having fun. What happened in school was a very different situation than what he knew at home when he was here studying for his final. I am letting him take the “zero”. He may have failed that part of the test in school, however, this is a major win for us. Along with that zero will come along with an experience that I will make sure he learns from and we will grow with the experience forever. It takes a lifetime to learn who we are. The only way we learn is through the experiences that we are given.

Until next time…

Love & Light, Always!

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