I Wish Someone Told Me
Life is filled with choices. Some of the choices we make when we are teenagers are the toughest choices of our lives. We don’t quite grasp certain concepts as teens and we often make poor choices not understanding what the outcome will be later on. Raising teenagers is really tough, especially when challenges arise. We try to do our best to guide without taking control. My question as a Momma wanting the best for her children will always be, “When do I stop trying?” Parents can only do so much until we lift our hands in the air and completely fold. The never ending battle needs to end at some point. It’s not goof for either of us. I will never necessarily stop trying, I will just try another way.
“There are moments when I wish I could roll back the clock and take all the sadness away, but I have a feeling that if I did, the joy would be gone as well.” ~ Nicholas Sparks.
One of my most favorite saying’s in life is, “I wish I knew then what I know now”. I say it all the time. I must sound like a broken record in our house. I have said it so many times. Sometimes I wish my children would believe me when I said it. I often wonder at times if they did if they’d make different choices. The answer to that is a simple, no. And, here’s why I have come to this conclusion. We all must make our own choices. The reason being is that we are being taught something based on the choice that we make. From being a teen to being an adult. Our choices are what brings us to where we need to be. Not necessarily where we want to be, where we NEED to be.
I have adult children and I have teenage children. It truly amazes me how different they are from each other. It’s a beautiful thing! It helps me understand that no matter how badly I fuck up as a Momma there’s truly nothing in this world I could have done differently. You can laugh. I am laughing too. It’s the truth. If you are a Momma and you are reading this I promise you that as long as you are guiding your little ones, giving them all the basic necessities to thrive and raising them to be kind humans there’s truly nothing more you can do. It seems like a no-brainer, right? I am figuring this all out as I go. I am guessing that if someone did tell me all of this I wouldn’t have believed them. I’d still have to figure it all our for myself. You know we don’t get a handbook when our children are born and if we did what fun would that be. We have lots of choices to make and sometimes we have to rely on experiences and our own choices, even as a Momma. We hope and pray that our children make good choices and their choices bring them happiness. Each time our children leave our home they hear one simple phrase, “Make good choices.” In the end, that is what life is all about. It’s the choices we make that will lead us down all kinds of different paths which will eventually lead to one big journey!
The truth to figuring out life is to just be. Stop trying so hard to understand and figure things out. There’s very little we can control and one of the only things we have control over is the action we choose to take. I understand as a Momma that my children are going to make some really awesome choices and they will make some really crappy ones too. I understand, wholeheartedly as a Momma who has made the same type of choices that if I didn’t make the choices I made I would not be who I am today. If someone told me this, I wouldn’t have believed them anyway!
Make good choices!
Until next time…
Love & Light, Always!
